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Never in the history of ever has anyone found the

Never in the history of ever has anyone found the words they were trying to find because someone told them to "use your words".
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This is exactly the same for our children, especially the little ones that don't have extensive language to start with. How many times have your kids been whining and whinging and you respond with "can't tell what your saying mate use your words". I know even I've pulled this one out before. 🙊
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Whinging is a really common trigger for a lot of parents and it causes a big build up of frustration on our part as parents which causes us to react in a way that is in the heat of the moment and actually serves to pour petrol on the fire instead of helping to put the behavioural fire out.
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It can be really easy to respond with "use your words" "tell me what you want" and "I can only hear big girl/boy voices".
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The thing is though that whining is an emotional behaviour, usually to communicate an unmet need of some description, emotional behaviours show us that the right side of the brain is working and words require the left brain so they literally can't find the words when they're emotional, upset or dysregulated. ✨
We have to meet the need first.
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Developmentally, this is very normal! Frustrating, yes. Normal, also yes.
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Try to repeat back what you think they're trying to communicate to give them access to language.
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"it looks like you really want mummy to play with you"
"Sounds like you're feeling hungry"
"I see that you want me to be done feeding your sister"
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Is whining a trigger in your house?

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Setting limits ✋
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Why and how?
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Limit setting is really important for both the parent and the child.
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Setting limits does not make you the 'bad cop' or the 'mean parent'. 💯
Not setting limits does not make you the 'good cop' or the 'fun parent' either. 💥
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Children need to know that there are consistent limits to define the boundaries of their behaviour and their relationships.
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Limits should not be negotiable and they should not be here one minute, gone the next. They need to be consistent.
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Do you struggle setting limits? Or do you have no problem but feel like your partner never enforces them and therefore you see an increase in negative behaviour when you're 'on shift'?
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You're creating bad habits 🙄 🙅‍♀️ You'

You're creating bad habits 🙄
🙅‍♀️ You'll never get them out of your bed
🙅‍♀️ They'll be on the boob at primary school if you keep this up
🙅‍♀️ They'll never sleep on their on their own if you continue to do that
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Have you ever heard any of the above?
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Here's the thing about habits... you can always create new ones! If your 'habits' work for you, your little one and your family then power to you. 👊 Tell Karen to go to talk to someone else.
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There is nothing that can't be changed if it stops working for you down the track.
Read that again if ever you're worried about 'bad habits.'
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If there's no problem for you, there's no problem.
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Who have you encountered that seems to have the biggest problem? The old lady at the doctors? A mother-in-law? Your sister? How do you deal with it when you receive such negative vibes?
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Man, does the thought of your child's tantrums whe

Man, does the thought of your child's tantrums when you leave the park make you not want to go at all?
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Leaving fun places can be really hard for young children. Remember, they have absolutely no concept of time so not only do they have no idea what 5 minutes means they also have zero care factor or awareness of all the other things that you have going on. The dinner, naps, the shopping, all the laundry... none of this features in their world, they are so engrossed and so absorbed in their little park play that it's not hard to understand why it's difficult for them to leave.
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Talking to them in concrete concepts such as 2 slides or 3 pushes on a swing instead of an abstract concept such as 5 minutes can help with the lead up to leaving. When 1 slide has been used up, let them know.
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"That was one slide. You've got 1 more slide now."
"This is your last slide, its going to be a big fast one, I'll catch you." (This has an added bonus of connecting with them and having fun WITH them which will increase co-operation.
That was the last slide, it's time to go now.
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Then validate their feelings and offer another choice.
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" It can be really hard to leave when you're having fun, do you want to chase me to the car or I chase you?"
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Give this a go next time you're at the park and let me know how you go. Do you think your little one would co-operate more with this tip? #childdevelopment #toddlerbehaviour #toddlerlife #toddlersofinstagram #behaviourspecialist #positiveparenting #positiveparentingtips #parentingsupport #parentinghelp #perthmums #securefoundations #positiveparentingtips #positiveparentingsolutions #aussiemums #perthmumsandbubs #parentingsupport #parenting101 #raisingtoddlers #transformingtoddlerhood #toddlers #2yearolds #yearolds #toddlertantrums #securefoundations #secureattachment #perthmumwa

WTF??! How did you get here and how did you hear t

WTF??! How did you get here and how did you hear that?!

What lengths would tyou go to to be able to open and finish a bag of chips in peace? 😂

When people say 'it would depend on your child's t

When people say 'it would depend on your child's temperament' what do they really mean?

Each child has their own temperament style made up of 9 characteristics which describes how they interact with their environment. Their temperamenth can be the reason you find one child more difficult to parent than another and can explain many differences between children.
Temperament can be observed in young children and can affect how easily they are settled as a baby even.

There are 4 well known temperaments used to describe children:

1. Easy - relatively calm, relaxed, usually follow predictable eating and sleeping patterns and happy engaging in the world around them. Usually relatively unphased by changes to their environment and accept new people quite easily.

2. Difficult - tend to be fussy, irritable babies, marked by unpredictability in their feeding and sleeping habits and are easily upset. It's thought that only 10% of children truly fit this category but interpretation is unique to everyone's experience.

3. Slow to warm up - Easily overwhelmed and typically cautious of new environments and new people. They are occassionally fussy but able to warm up to new experiences with repeated exposure.

4. Hard to classify - these may possess traits from all the above and are difficult to categorise as one or the other.

Do you notice any of these traits in your children? If they differ, did you notice how it affected your parenting?

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